Helping Your Student
Helping Your Student From a Distance
Of course, you are still a parent even if your student has moved away, he or she still needs your support and guidance during the college years. Here are some ways you can express your caring and enhance your student’s experience at college:
Stay in touch!
Even though your student is experimenting with independent choices, he or she still needs to know that you’re there and are available to talk over both normal events and difficult issues.
Allow space for your student to set the agenda for some of your conversations. If he/she needs help or support, the subject is more likely to come up if you aren’t continually inquiring about what time he/she came in last night. Your role is to listen actively and try to understand what they are saying or trying to say.
Be realistic with your college student about financial matters
Most students come to school with at least some plan about how tuition, fees, books, and room and board will be paid for, and what the family’s expectations are about spending money. Being specific in the beginning may help avoid misunderstandings later.
Be realistic about academic achievement and grades
Florida State University attracts bright students and has some of the highest academic standards for universities in Florida. This leads to a higher level of competition than what students may have faced in High School and means that not every freshman who excelled academically in High School will be a 4.0 student here. Developing the capacity to work independently and consistently can be more important than grades, as long as the student meets the basic academic requirements set out by the university.
Encourage them to use available FSU resources
If your student does experience difficulties, encourage him to take advantage of the many campus resources available for students. The FSU Counseling Center is always available to help your student and there are a variety of other sources for academic assistance as well.